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Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Happy Thanksgiving!

Nick brought home ten unisex outfits the other day and hung them in the nursery closet. I’m not sure why he bought them when we’re sure to get plenty of clothes at the baby shower next Spring, not to mention all the hand-me-downs we’re sure to get. On the one hand, I want to be prepared now, but then we need to see what gifts we receive first. We’re discussing furniture and a theme for the nursery, so I see painting in my future!

Last weekend I received a call from my parent’s house, so my first thought was that somebody died or was near death. My mom called, “just to see how you’re doing”, which is the first time I ever remember her calling just to ask about me. I hadn’t spoken to her since telling her about the babies in early September, when she told me this was “a sign of the end times”. Anyway, after about a half hour of her going on about herself and her church, she asked how the babies were doing. I suspect this was the real purpose of her call. Apparently, the realization of actually becoming a grandparent has made her happy after all.

I’m sure it’s not easy for my parents to be “out” about the babies. To my knowledge, no one else in the family knows I’m gay, so explaining grandchildren to other family members will require explaining my situation. We don’t have a large family and I’m not close to any aunts, uncles or cousins, so I never found it necessary to come out to other family members. I only see them at funerals and my parents made it clear they didn’t want the rest of the family to know. I could care less, but they’re the ones who interact with everyone else, so I let it go. It’ll be interesting to see how this evolves.

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving, and we have plenty to be thankful for. We only have one guest coming for dinner, but we’ll probably have enough food to eat leftovers for the next week. I’m looking forward to four days off work, plenty of rest, and time spent with friends.


Michael og Hugo said...


Thanks for a very nice and interesting blog.

We are a gay married couple in Europe that are on the steps of doing the same. But we will start the process in 2008. And most probably in India!

It is very good to read thoughts from someone in the same situation as one self and to realize that it is possible to have a child, even if you are a gay couple.

We will continue reading your blog.

All the best to you both and the babies,

H&M :-)

GayDad said...

Thanks and good luck on your quest to parenthood!

Is surrogacy legal in the EU? I've heard that the agencies in Los Angeles that do surrogacy for gay couples also have men come all the way from Europe, so I suspect it isn't legal there - or at least not in all countries.